So, you’ve been invited to a Belgian wedding? First of all—lucky you! Belgian weddings are a delightful mix of romance, elegance, and a whole lot of good food and drinks. But before you start practicing your dance moves, let’s make sure you’re up to speed on Belgian wedding etiquette—so you don’t accidentally commit a social faux pas (like showing up late or underdressed!).
Getting Invited: RSVP Like a Pro
Belgians take their wedding invitations seriously. If you receive one, consider it a big deal—it means the couple really wants you there. But here’s the catch: you’re expected to RSVP as soon as possible.
💌 Tip: If there’s an RSVP deadline, respect it. No “I’ll let them know later” nonsense—Belgians love planning, and uncertainty is not welcome.
Also, pay attention to what part of the wedding you’re invited to:
- Civil ceremony only? That’s the legal part, often a smaller affair.
- Religious or symbolic ceremony? This is where the vows happen.
- Reception only? That means you’re coming just for the dinner and dancing.
🚀 Pro tip: Some Belgian couples host a smaller daytime event and then invite more guests to an evening reception. Don’t assume you’re in for the full-day experience—check your invitation carefully!
What to Wear: The Art of Belgian Wedding Fashion
Belgian weddings are stylish, but not flashy. Think understated elegance rather than over-the-top glamour.
👗 For women: A chic cocktail dress, a sophisticated gown, or a stylish ensemble with a hat (yes, hats are a thing in some regions, especially in Flanders!). Avoid white, ivory, or anything that might outshine the bride.
🤵 For men: A tailored suit is your best bet. If the invite specifies “black tie,” break out the tuxedo. Otherwise, a classic suit and tie will do the trick.
🚨 What NOT to wear:
❌ Anything too casual—jeans and sneakers are a no-go.
❌ Anything too extravagant—you’re a guest, not the star of the show.
🌦️ Belgian Weather Alert: If the wedding is outdoors, bring a light jacket or shawl. Belgium’s weather can be surprisingly unpredictable!
The Ceremony: Civil, Religious, or Both?
Belgium has a mandatory civil wedding at the town hall before any religious or symbolic ceremony. Some couples keep this part private, while others invite close family and friends.
👰 If you’re attending a church wedding, expect a heartfelt but efficient service (30-60 minutes). No four-hour-long ceremonies here! Afterward, guests often gather outside for a celebratory champagne toast.
💡 Did You Know?
It’s common for Belgian couples to walk down the aisle together instead of having the bride “given away.” Modern, right?
Wedding Gifts: How Much Should You Really Give?
Belgian couples often have a wedding registry or provide a bank account number for monetary gifts. If in doubt, cash is always welcome.
💶 How much should you give?
- Close family/friends: €100-€200 per person
- Casual guests: €50-€100 per person
- Evening-only guests: €30-€50 per person
🚀 Pro tip: Add a thoughtful handwritten card with your gift—it makes a difference! If the couple has a registry, stick to it—they chose those gifts for a reason.
Food & Drinks: A Belgian Wedding Feast to Remember
Belgium is known for its incredible food, and weddings are no exception. Expect a multi-course meal, often with wine or Belgian beer pairings.
🍽️ What’s on the menu?
- Starter: Local delicacies like shrimp croquettes or foie gras.
- Main Course: Expect meat or fish, often paired with seasonal vegetables and a rich sauce.
- Desserts: Belgian chocolate? Obviously. But also expect mini pastries, fruit tarts, and the famous “croquembouche” (a French-style tower of cream-filled profiteroles).
🍾 Champagne Toast: This happens either after the ceremony or before the meal—never skip it!
Dancing & Traditions: What Happens After Midnight?
Belgian weddings are legendary for their parties. The reception can last until 4 AM or later, and it’s not uncommon for the newlyweds to be the last ones standing.
💃 Expect:
- A romantic first dance by the couple.
- An open bar with Belgian beer (obviously).
- A mix of traditional waltzes and modern hits.
😂 Fun fact: It’s a common prank for groomsmen to “kidnap” the bride during the party. The groom must then complete a silly challenge to “win her back”!
FAQs: Quick Answers to Your Belgian Wedding Questions
📌 Can I wear black to a Belgian wedding?
Yes! Black is totally fine—as long as it’s elegant and doesn’t look too somber.
📌 Do Belgian weddings have speeches?
Yes, but not as many as in Anglo-Saxon weddings. Usually, the parents, best man, and a few friends give short toasts.
📌 What kind of food is served at Belgian weddings?
Think fine dining: gourmet meats, fresh seafood, rich sauces, and a decadent dessert table.
📌 Do I need to stay until the end of the party?
Not necessarily, but it’s polite to say goodbye to the couple before leaving.
📌 Should I bring a plus-one?
Only if your invitation says “+1” or “Avec partenaire.” Never assume!
Final Thoughts: Enjoy the Magic of a Belgian Wedding
Belgian weddings are elegant, joyful, and unforgettable. Follow these etiquette tips, embrace the traditions, and most importantly—celebrate love! And don’t forget to raise your glass for a heartfelt “Santé!” 🍾
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